YogiWrites

“Freedom isn’t something you achieve. It’s something you stop preventing.”

Friendship Day hit me like an unscheduled software update.

The call started innocent enough: “Happy Friendship Day!” I’m thinking, “Wait… is it today?” (It was.)

But then it morphed into one of those conversations where someone accidentally discovers enlightenment and immediately asks if they can franchise it.

The Story:

She dove straight into the deep end: “People have expectations of you, and you end up living their version instead of yours.”

Fair point. I said, “Life’s actually simple. We’re the ones making it a Rubik’s cube.”

Then she drops this gem: “I saw a podcast saying we should practice unmanifesting, not just manifesting.”

Interesting. So now we’re deconstructing our constructions?

The Plot Twist:

I told her: “Manifest, unmanifest — you’re still playing identity games. The moment you identify with anything, you’ve created a reality to maintain.”

“But what if you just… stopped identifying? No loading, no unloading. No karmic luggage claims.”

The mind loves its drama. It collects experiences like trauma trophies or pleasure points. But here’s the thing — what you enjoyed, you naturally forget. What hurt you, you carry like a backpack full of rocks.

The act is just the act. Yesterday? That’s a dream that ended. Only now is real.

The Beautiful Absurdity:

After this whole conversation, she feels liberated. Lighter. Free.

Her immediate response? “Let’s meet up and have some fun!”

I’m laughing internally because… she just escaped one mental trap and immediately started designing another one.

It’s like I pulled her out of jail and she said, “Cool, wanna go rob another bank together?”

The Human Comedy:

This is what I find endlessly amusing about us humans. Even when we touch something real — genuine presence, actual freedom — the seeking mind can’t help but go: “Great! Now how do I capitalize on this?”

She wanted to turn her liberation into a transaction. Give some energy, take some back. Create an experience around the experience of not needing experiences.

The very mechanism that kept her trapped just… pivoted.

Takeaway:

You can’t save people from their own seeking. You can offer perspective, point toward simplicity, even help them taste freedom.

But that moment they’re truly free? They’ll often use it to go shopping for a more comfortable version of their familiar patterns.

Not because they’re broken. Because the mind is like a machine that forgot how to turn itself off.

The Real Friendship Day Gift:

The deepest friendship isn’t rescuing someone from their cycles. It’s witnessing them with such clarity that they might, just might, catch a glimpse of themselves in your eyes.

And if they choose to loop back into seeking? You smile, shrug, and let them.

Because forcing someone to be free is just another form of imprisonment.

Your Move:

Ever been the accidental therapist in your friend group? Try this: Next time someone dumps their mental inbox on you, don’t fix them. Just reflect back their own clarity. Watch what happens.

The wisdom was always theirs. You’re just the mirror.